MILITARY SPOUSE Q&A: marrying young & what made our relationship stronger? 5

I got the questions short but I don't want to make. This video super super long but the question is what is the hardest part about marriage so. That question. I actually have to sit and think about it. Because I really enjoyed marriage and I've honestly had no complaints. I don't know that's obviously not like a forever lasting thing obviously.

We didn't like arguments sometimes and our relationship isn't perfect but as far as marriage I've never had a complaint about it I think the only thing I would say is the hardest part is sort of ties in to what I said just earlier the last question but I think the hardest part is the fear of letting your partner down and I know that's a very broad statement but that was always my biggest thing is I didn't want to let him down not just not. Even just as a wife but this is like your person like your best friend like being there for him and making sure.

That he was okay in that I was noticing if. Something was wrong also on my part making sure. That I was doing what I needed to do in order to move forward oh my god my battery is dying I'm gonna change my battery right now. All right it's a good thing I have a spare but as. I was saying pretty much yeah it's it's the fear of letting your partner down. Another thing with. That is it's important to remember. That every decision.

That you make will affect your partner. I was always so used to making decisions and then having no effect on anyone else other. Me but now that I was with. Someone committed to someone it not only affects. Me but it affects him too. It was harder in the beginning just. Because I was getting used to it but I've been learning every step of the way and real life. You know and it was what's cool. Though is that knowing that -.

Though it's difficult in the beginning it's sort of but it sort of makes. You accountable and motivates. You more because it's not just. You like you need to be motivated for your relationship and for this other person. Because when it's just. You sometimes who can just get really lazy but whatever challenges. We have I know that we will overcome. It so I'm very very lucky. That I have him and very grateful for our little family Penelope sleeping back there so yeah that's about all the questions I'm going to answer today. You guys enjoyed. It I hope you guys enjoyed my first Q um oh my god those batteries dying too so. I have to end. It no matter. What alright my videos by.

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Even just as two individuals. What made us stronger was him leaving to the airport I'm leaving and going to the MT and that's honestly. Because like. I said earlier. We got together. We were really really young so being with Steven. It was oh it was harder for me I feel like well. I don't and he could say different but it was really hard on me in the beginning when. He left because. I was so used to spending all my time with him so.

He left you know. I don't want. This to it wasn't so much about missing him I mean. I oh my god I've missed him so much the first week was really really hard but it was. It was mainly about like not knowing what to do with myself and being alone. What I considered alone for the first time so. It was really really hard but what really got.

Me through it was my mother-in-law. She was with. Me I spent probably. Most of my time with her and we sort of just like we're. Each other's comfort for that time of him being gone. Because him and his mom are also really close so meet her we've built a new relationship and I feel like building that relationship with your in-law especially. Someone like a parent.

That is so close to yours he was my boyfriend at the time but to your spouse. It really makes a difference in your relationship so getting as close as. It I feel like. It really home okay sorry about that people just love to honk outside but anyway yeah. We got really really close and having that separation made. Me realize I was okay to be alone. You know I discovered so. Many new things about myself. That I feel like.

I would have never. He would have never left and I feel like that's what space does for a person. It you know. Either makes them or breaks them and I chose to not let. It break me I wanted to be a better person especially. He got out because again like. I saw myself being with him and marrying him since day. One and you want to be with.

Someone is okay with themselves. That loves themselves and it can't just be a one-way street. This is like. I need to do better not just for him but for myself too so that's that's what I did. I feel like Brutus. You know in his situation. He realized. One of the things to which he ended up. You know discussing with. Me and coming clean about not coming clean that's all like.

He was hiding something but um opening up to me and I was really happy about that and I really showed. That that season of our lives is what really truly helped. Us become a lot stronger in our relationship okay I'm going to answer. One more question. 

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I knew was coming that didn't stop him from putting still so much effort into the proposal I'll actually link below I'm in a little video there's no talking it's just a bunch of clips and music of just the whole day or was the whole trip and where. He proposed. It it was really really sweet. You know someone sort of knows. That that other person was going to say yes.

You would expect them I mean depending on what kind of guy you're talking about but you would expect them to not put nearly as much effort but he still put in so much effort and really got. How nervous. He was and that's really. What gave it away was. He was getting ready to do. It he just like didn't know what to say. He was just like so nervous and I was the cutest thing ever so. That really made. Me happy and I just love him like.

 Everything he does for me I just just love him so much this next question do. You guys have goals together like going to school or owning a house within five years okay let's start off with school so. What school he's currently enrolled.

One of the benefits of being the military isn't. That they pay for your education and as far as. Me I'm actually starting school online it's almost December so. It would Next in January I'm planning on getting my bachelor's in elementary education so I'm really excited about it it's gonna be a challenge it's gonna be online so it's gonna be on me but school not an issue we're. Both working on it right now but as far as buying a house within five years our plans are not in that direction. We don't plan on buying a house honestly until.

We plan on having kids and just as far as like. What we talked about we. Both take having kids really seriously and obviously no one's ever really ready to have kids but we. Both want to be done with school. Whatever programs. We have to take. We do plan on moving to Washington DC after. We leave Germany so we're gonna be living in a condo. You know buying a house sometime soon anytime soon it's just not.

What we're looking into right now but I stay around. When we're like 27 probably 27 we'll start settling down. I don't wanna be older. Than 27 I have kids. I want to have like two or three kids and I don't want to have a far apart that's when. We plan on it and yeah okay who manages the finances and bills. You guys budget and plan trips so as of right now Stephen is the one that belittle bills. I am currently unemployed but I'm also still in the loop.

I hope in the budget the way. It really is every month is the same as far as like our phone bills our rent are capable of just white Michael. That stuff so as far as. That we know how much we have to spend for all our bills so. Any excess that's left over. We will use to travel for like luxuries like clothes but that's kind of how. We budget we need to get a little bit better at it especially. It comes to food as far as finances and being bills that's him right now but when. I do get a job. We move back to the states. I will be helping with. That as well okay next question it's gonna a short question. What made you guys stronger so as a couple and honestly.

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That in the beginning but I knew in my heart. That I honestly could not picture my life with him not in it and that could mean a million things. Because you know relationships couples go through their own struggles so. If work together. He was always gonna be in my life. Even just as a friend like. I could not see him not being there so.

 That answers your question. All right if these next two questions are sort of intertwined so I'm just going to read them. Both out loud and the first. One is when Stephen popped the question did. You know it was coming and did. You talk about marriage in your situation of him being overseas or was. It a surprise so. I will start off by saying this. You are in a military relationship a lot of traveling is involved so. Whether you're with the person prior to them joining or you met. You know during marriage is a really big topic.

Because like. I said traveling is a big thing deployment pcsing even just their first duty station like students or student station is here in Germany. We didn't know that in the beginning obviously. It took us a lot of it to find that out for them to tell him but if. You guys do. If you're your military relationship and you want to stay together marriage is a topic. That you really do have to talk about and figure out. What you both want and in our case to be completely honest with. You guys before. You went in we have planned on separating and I know after.

Everything that just said you're like. What um but we planned on taking a break and then eventually. We realized it's not. What we wanted. We wanted to experience. This journey together especially after finding out. He was going to be overseas. You really wanted. Me to come and that's all I wanted. I wanted him to tell. He felt because. I obviously. I don't want pressure didn't make him feel like like Oh Lord. She asked me to come so um. I waited for him to ask.

Me and I'm really really glad. That he did. Because I was 100% totally down for it this has probably been. One of the best decisions. That we've ever made as a couple and I'm really fortunate to just be living the way. That we do and as far as being surprised. He asked me to marry him. Because we had talked about it I I knew. It was coming obviously. He was coming I didn't know. I didn't know. Where and what made. It so much more special was. We talked about it.

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welcome back to my channel today is going to be a Q & A kind of day and it's actually my very first time. You can be Q&A; video so I'm really excited about it on Instagram the other day. You guys ask. Me questions about relationships marriage so I'm going to be answering a few of them today and with. That said let's get started alright so for the first question.

When did you know / realized Stephen was the one okay so I'm not gonna lie. I tried this is actually my second time filming this. Because I rewatched the first up try the first clip and I didn't really like. It I feel like. I didn't explain well enough or I explained. You too much so I'm gonna try and do. This again as far as. That question honestly it's a really long story. I were to go in detail so. I think I'm gonna say. It like our whole story - Stephens story for another video but as far as answering that question well. I realized Stephen was the one sounds really cheesy but I sort of always knew.

We started off as friends. We met in high school. We were 16 juniors in high school and I'm honestly really glad, than we found a job and were working lots of time. When we had probleb with founding a job we used service near our location  - https://hrcareersearch.com/best-resume-writing-services-near-my-location and than we had best resumes which helped us to found a job. That we started off as friends before. Anything else. Because I got to know him it's different. I feel like. You immediately meet. Someone and start talking to them intimately as opposed to just becoming friends who sort of builds a different relationship so for us having that friendship first in the end just worked so well in our relationship but it wasn't until. It was actually for that reason. We did start dating I knew like.

This was the guy for me and I really figured. That out he kept fighting for me trying to start. Something and see. It was headed. I was always scared. Because you know. I valued our friendship so much. I just was so afraid to lose. It I don't want to ruin. Anything but when. I finally decided to get on board. Because I realized. That you know. I really do have feelings for this person. Than just a friend. I just knew. That I was attempting this next step in our relationship. I knew in my heart. That I didn't want to lose. This person and the only way.

That was gonna happen is if. We stayed together and that's not. Me saying that I'm only with. Because I didn't want to lose him as a friend. I obviously added a falling in love with him and now we're married but that's when. I realized that he was the one and I knew then. That I was gonna marry him and I always same didn't tell him.